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Reddit user alleges brother-in-law secretly recorded her showering, asks for advice on what to do

A Reddit user recounted the disturbing experience of catching her brother-in-law secretly recording her while she showered. Despite her family’s efforts to dissuade her, she allegedly proceeded to file a police report. Netizens rallied behind her decision, affirming that she made the right choice.

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SINGAPORE: A Reddit user recently shared her troubling experience, seeking advice on whether she could report her brother-in-law for secretly recording her while she was showering.

In a post uploaded on Wednesday (11 Sept), she explained that she lives with her family, including her pregnant sister and her sister’s boyfriend, who are staying with them while waiting for their Build-To-Order (BTO) flat.

The incident occurred one night when she was showering in a bathroom with a faulty door. To avoid disturbing her family with the loud noise caused by locking the door, she left it unlocked.

During her shower, she heard knocking and tapping sounds from the bathroom door.

When she looked out through the sliding door that separated the wet and dry areas, she saw a phone peeking over the top of the door. Shocked, she quickly closed the sliding door.

Afterwards, she felt overwhelmed and debated whether to inform her family. She also feared that her sister might have been a victim of the same behaviour.

Seeking advice, she asked on Reddit whether she could file a police report, and how the police might handle the situation if evidence had been deleted or if her brother-in-law denied it.

Netizens urge user to report incident

In response to her story on Reddit, many netizens encouraged the user to report the incident to the police.

One user strongly urged her to make a police report, stating, “You will only be enabling the criminal to commit future crimes if you let it slide.”

They explained that the police would record her statement and possibly confiscate the suspect’s mobile device for forensic IT investigations.

The Redditor reassured her that even if the data had been deleted, it was still possible for the police to retrieve timestamps of recordings or detect suspicious activity, such as deleting files at certain times.

They added that lodging a police report would serve as a precedent if the suspect engaged in similar behaviour in the future. The user was also advised to confide in a trustworthy family member or friend for support when filing the report.

Another user mentioned that she did not need to leave her room to make a report, as it could be done via the police website using Singpass, or by calling 999.

Additionally, one user recommended contacting the AWARE hotline for victims of sexual assault, particularly if her family was not supportive.

User files police report despite family’s reaction

In a subsequent update, the user thanked netizens for their support and confirmed that she had informed her family and filed a police report.

She shared that her brother-in-law had contacted her mother, indicating he was aware of being discovered.

Despite this, the user expressed frustration with her family’s response.

Her sister suggested that informing the family was punishment enough for her husband, and her parents urged her to “calm down” and reconsider filing the report.

The user felt disappointed by their lack of empathy, suspecting cultural norms may have influenced their reaction.

Netizens support user’s decision

In further responses, many netizens backed her decision to report the incident, assuring her that none of the blame rested on her.

One user praised her for being brave and doing the right thing by reporting the incident to the police, noting that “saving face” is a common cultural practice.

They added that the family should realise the true fault lay with the brother-in-law, describing him as a “pervert” and stating that no one should side with such behaviour.

Others reassured her that the family was already damaged by her brother-in-law’s behaviour, and that she had made the right choice.

A user expressed relief that she had filed the report, advising her not to feel guilty or be swayed by her family’s attempts to dissuade her.

They pointed out that many cases go unreported due to the desire to “save face” or “give someone a chance.”

The user added that her brother-in-law’s behaviour was likely not an isolated incident and praised her for taking the right steps to protect herself and others.

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M’sia NGO highlights toxic healthcare environment, urges reform after specialist’s suicide

A Malaysian NGO has urgently called for reform following Dr Tay Tien Yaa’s tragic death amid workplace bullying allegations at Lahad Datu Hospital. The NGO highlights how a toxic work environment, exacerbated by doctor shortages and inadequate facilities, impacts healthcare professionals. They demand a transparent reporting system, strict anti-bullying policies, and enhanced mental health support to address chronic understaffing and excessive workloads.

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MALAYSIA: Hartal Doktor Kontrak (the Contract Doctors’ Group), an NGO in Malaysia has issued a strong call for immediate action in response to the tragic death of Dr Tay Tien Yaa, a young specialist who took her own life amid allegations of workplace bullying at Lahad Datu Hospital in Sabah, Malaysia.

The NGO extends its heartfelt condolences to Dr Tay’s family, friends, and colleagues, and underscores the profound impact her passing has had on the medical community.

Despite recent findings by the Ministry of Health (MOH) task force on workplace bullying, Hartal Doktor Kontrak argues that the response has been inadequate.

The NGO demands more decisive action to tackle the pervasive issue of bullying within Malaysia’s healthcare system.

This includes implementing a transparent and independent reporting system for all healthcare workers and enforcing anti-bullying policies with strict accountability measures.

Additionally, Hartal Doktor Kontrak emphasizes the need for enhanced mental health support services for healthcare professionals, particularly those in high-stress or remote positions.

Dr Tay’s death highlights critical issues such as chronic understaffing and excessive workloads, which contribute to severe stress and mental health concerns.

The NGO insists that the time for change is now and urges the Ministry of Health (KKM) to expedite reforms to safeguard healthcare workers and prevent further tragedies related to workplace bullying.

On 14 September, a netizen named YS Tay, who claims to be Dr Tay’s brother, posted on Facebook alleging that Dr Tay experienced workplace bullying.

YS Tay revealed that Dr Tay, 30, had an impressive academic record, earning a Master’s Degree in Chemical Pathology in 2023. She was appointed head of the Chemical Pathology Unit at Lahad Datu Hospital in February 2024.

Despite her best efforts to improve healthcare services at the hospital, including upgrading diagnostic equipment and securing resources for her unit, Dr Tay allegedly faced immense pressure.

In August 2024, just six months into her tenure, she was found dead in her rental unit. Her family was informed of her death on 29 August.

YS Tay accused Dr Tay’s department head of workplace bullying, alleging that the superior manipulated her, assigned tasks outside her job scope, and subjected her to overwhelming workloads.

The pressure included managing personnel, handling budgets, and attending endless meetings.

He lamented that the medical field in Malaysia is rife with exploitation and questioned whether authorities had become indifferent to such tragedies.

Earlier, Lahad Datu police confirmed that no foul play was suspected in Dr Tay’s death but acknowledged the family’s allegations of bullying.

On Monday, Health Minister Datuk Seri Dr. Dzulkefly Ahmad addressed the incident, reaffirming his commitment to eradicating bullying in the medical field.

In a post on X (formerly Twitter), he emphasized that all staff deserve a safe and fair working environment and pledged a thorough investigation into the circumstances surrounding Dr Tay’s death.

Community Voices Alarm Over Healthcare System’s Toxic Culture and Lack of Support

In response to Dr Tay’s passing, the Malaysian community has expressed deep concern and frustration about the mental health support for medical professionals.

Many have highlighted that the challenging culture within the healthcare system, combined with a shortage of doctors and inadequate facilities, significantly contributes to the toxic work environment in KKM.

Comments suggest that administrators and doctors who mistreat their colleagues are often perceived as “effective” in managing staff shortages.

This dynamic exacerbates the problem, leaving many healthcare workers, particularly government doctors, fearful of speaking out about bullying due to potential repercussions.

Kenn Yeap, a state assemblyman in Perak, shared insight from a doctor described widespread bullying and exploitation by senior staff in hospitals, highlighting that the hierarchy of bullying is prevalent even in healthcare settings, where it should be least expected.

Yeap’s friend’s message, expressing despair and a lack of support, underscores the severe pressure and exploitation faced by medical professionals.

Yeap questions whether the government is effectively managing these issues and whether the pressures faced by doctors, often perceived as glamorous, are being adequately addressed.

He calls for a critical examination of the government’s handling of the situation and the overall support system for healthcare workers.

For those struggling with suicidal thoughts or mental health challenges, help is available. In Malaysia, support services include the Mental Health Psychosocial Support Service (03-2935 9935 or 014-322 3392) and Befrienders Kuala Lumpur (03-7627 2929).

In Singapore, you can contact the Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) at 1-767 or text 9151 1767 for support.

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Video of alleged bullying by Bukit View Secondary students circulates online, police investigate

A TikTok video allegedly showing Bukit View Secondary School students bullying a fellow student went viral before being removed. The school confirmed the October 2023 incident took place outside its premises. The victim reported no injuries, and a police report has been lodged. Investigations are ongoing.

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SINGAPORE: A video showing a group of students allegedly bullying a fellow student has surfaced online, drawing significant attention and prompting a police investigation.

The students, who appeared to be dressed in Bukit View Secondary School uniforms, were recorded taunting and assaulting a smaller student at the void deck of a Housing Board flat.

The TikTok video, which went viral before being deleted, was posted on 15 September.

It showed at least five students surrounding a boy with a backpack. The group was laughing and jeering at the victim before one student kicked him in the back, causing him to fall to the ground.

The video garnered almost 600,000 views by 11 am on 16 September before its removal.

Bukit View Secondary School’s principal Jaswant Singh told The Straits Times that the incident occurred in October 2023 outside the school premises and was not reported to the school at the time.

Following the video’s circulation, the school immediately checked on the victim, who did not report any injuries.

Mr Singh emphasized the school’s serious stance on such behaviour, stating that the students involved would be counseled and face appropriate disciplinary actions.

The victim’s parents have since lodged a police report. The police have confirmed that investigations are ongoing regarding the bullying incident.

Helplines

If you or someone you know is in need of support, the following helplines are available:

  • Samaritans of Singapore Hotline: 1767
  • Singapore Association for Mental Health: 1800-283-7019
  • Institute of Mental Health (24 hours): 6389-2222
  • Tinkle Friend (for primary school-aged children): 1800-274-4788

You can discover a directory of global helplines on this page.

If someone you are aware of is facing an imminent threat, please dial 24-hour emergency services.

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